Plato writes in one of his texts The Symposium about the theory of soulmates and alleges that “humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.”
We all have that desire to find the perfect person to spend the rest of our days with, the person that we resonate with and who makes you feel entirely whole, healed and intact, like no piece is missing from the puzzle. Each of us is a matching half and each of us is seeking for the half that matches ourselves.
It is then said that when the two would find each other there would be an unspoken understanding of one another, that they would lie together in unity and would know no greater joy than what comes with being united.
Some people argue that love is the discovery of one’s soulmate and that you can have only one true love in your lifetime and until then, you will love to fill your gaps in your soul and make mistakes, learn from them, until you meet The One and you will be complete.
But seeing things from a different perspective, we can understand the idea that each of us has a person that mirrors us in some way, and that we are drawn to different people because something about them reminds us of ourselves. I think that each person we fall in love with complements a different aspect of us.
There are many people out there with whom you can have fantastic time, great companionship, support when you need it, shared sense of humor and values, and all the other things that make up love. You make your choice and then you validate it by calling it ‘true love’. The love of your life is the one you currently love.
At the same time, I think that the soul has never been a sphere that has been divided and that it is a whole, a unique entity which is searching for being accepted and loved. Love can neither be measured nor counted, so it can happen to you many times, anywhere and anyhow.
There is not only one pair of souls. I think there are more potential soulmates, people with whom you resonate very well. If you have not found the pair yet, you do not have to despair. Keep in mind the failed relationships also teach us something and help us grow.
You can fall in love not once, not twice, but infinite times. It all depends on the way you choose to define love.
The writer is studying Law and she is from Romania.